Sorry to hear you're running into issues.
As for working with SMB shares:
On both my Macs, using RMTV with SMB shares works flawless. So nothing needs to be changed here.
I have a M1 Max running Tahoe 26.0, connected over WiFi 5 (!), and my ancient Trashcan, a 2013 Intel Mac Pro running macOS Sequoia, over 1Gb Ethernet, and both machines have zero problems when using RMTV. Things run fast, even with ffProbe enabled.
Note: my SMB share is on a QNAP NAS (Linux based OS).
I'm using it right now as we speak over WiFi 5 (on my M1, a few rooms away from my WiFi router) to debug a bug that was reported by another user related to ffProbe. Not to mention that most RMTV macOS users do exactly the same, without issues, which suggests that you may have a network issue.
As far as network related issues:
There is absolutely nothing I can do to fix this in RMTV.
All network traffic is handled by macOS and your network, and files are just accessed by RMTV as if they were local files.
RMTV doesn't even know they are on a network share.
The fact that you see this with several builds of RMTV only confirms it to be an underlaying problem with your network.
Having said that; I feel your pain.
I have seen freezes like that before caused by what feels like congestion on the network in the past.
It's been a while (upgraded my network and fine-tuned things as far as I could - mind you: I'm not an expert).
I've experienced this especially with filemanagers like ForkLift and PathFinder that totally freeze when moving a lot of large files.
This freeze still happens every now and then as well, but only when my M1 is running on batteries and macOS thinks its a good idea to shutdown WiFi when the lit is closed - but once the WiFi is up again, and the mounted shares are active again, things run smooth again.
So anywho ... I do feel your frustration with this.
In the end it sounds like you have some kind of network congestion.
I'd recommend, if you haven't done this already, to test without WiFI.
Make sure to disable WiFi in macOS, since macOS occasionally decides to use WiFi instead of Ethernet for no obvious reason.
Ideally test this with the integrated Ethernet port if your MBK has one.
If not, and you're using a USB dongle for this, try a different port or a different dongle.
I ended up replacing mine with a 2.5 GbE USB dongle from AliExpress - so not the most expensive one 😉.
Note that WiFi 6 or 7 has no added value in this - as I can see by my WiFi 5 performing very well for this purpose.
As for the multi-tabbed/multimodal request;
For one, it wouldn't fix the freezing as it is not a CPU/process related issue.
macOS is the one handling all the network/SMB stuff and we'd just double up (or worse) on the load and traffic causing even more congestion.
In the end this would only make things worse and cause RMTV to freeze more often and quicker.
I'd be more than happy to help and see where we can get this to work better, but I'm afraid it's one or the other thing in your network causing this.